Movie relationships
Christmas….a time for snuggly old films about how romantic Mr so and so is to some lucky woman. It’s the time for soppy Christmas number ones where a cute Boyband will be belt out a tune promising to me ‘yours forever’. Christmas is the time for sharing your love, being romantic and skipping along in a daydream. Bang! Then you realise, to your utter horror that reality just isn’t like this!
Romantic films; we all love them. The romantic men, the emotion involved and that great scene at the end where they all the wrongs become right and they happily mooch off into the sunset together. Growing up I was fixated by Sandy and Danny falling in love over dodgy hair dos and nifty dance routines. And what was more romantic than a bit of Dirty Dancing between Baby and Johnny. So to tell you that I was a little bit disappointed when it came to realistic relationships is an understatement. Real life relationships are nothing like the movies, and frankly, it’s just NOT FAIR!!
Movie relationships set an unrealistic perception when it comes to relationships and love. And of course guys haven’t grown up with Julia Roberts being whisked away from her life as a Hollywood hooker, so how can they ever reach the standards we expect? For one, and I know this is more unrealistic than Robbie Williams sweeping me off my feet and declaring his undying love to me, but where’s the ‘slushy cry your heart out’ music when it comes to that pivotal moment on your first date? Just think; Elton John and Blue popping on in the background while your building up that tension to your first kiss. It works in the movies, so why not in real life?
In the movies anything’s possible where love is concerned, okay I know it’s not real and we all have to go to work, make a living, blah, blah, blah. But how come men in movies drop everything, at a moments notice, and travel across the world for the woman of their dreams? When our guys won’t even move off the sofa to change the TV over?!
Romantic films never warned us about football, drunken boyfriends and rude friends. In movies the guy tries to impress the girl by winning over her parents or fighting off a baddie. Romeo even died for Juliet, now that’s true love. We have to put up with our guys ogling at other girls, Saturday afternoons on our own because, ‘the footballs on’ and laddish behaviour. Frankly Juliet just wouldn’t have put up with this behaviour, and Romeo, being the gentleman he was, wouldn’t have dared to behave this way.
I could wait my entire life, but I’m sure no guy will ever mutter the words “Nobody puts baby in the corner”, well not in any sort of romantic framing anyway. It still makes me tingle when I watch the last scene where Patrick Swayze sweeps baby off her feet, because you know (well I definitely know I’ve seen it at least 100 times) that a happy ending is not far away. Everything turns out well and their love changed lives for the better. Where’s our happy ending?
Okay so I’m not some sort of deluded freak who believes that films are actually real life, but sometimes I wish they were. Thinking about it we don’t actually know what happened after Baby and Johnny finished dancing, they may have had ‘The time of their lives’ that night but what happened afterwards? We assumed they lived happily ever after, but where’s the proof? She could have easily been just some holiday fling. No sorry I just can’t do it, they lived happily ever after, and that’s the end of it!
I know holding on to romantic films isn’t healthy; it’s only going to lead to a string of disappointed relationships. When my next boyfriend asks me the reason I dumped him I can’t really say it’s because our relationship just doesn’t live up to how it is in the movies. But where do fairytales end and real life begin...surely we can have some sort of compromise? After all if Patrick Swayze can die in Ghost, and still come back to kiss Demi for one last time, surely we can expect prince charming to appear from time to time, and sweep us off our feet. That isn’t too much to ask…is it?!
Romantic films; we all love them. The romantic men, the emotion involved and that great scene at the end where they all the wrongs become right and they happily mooch off into the sunset together. Growing up I was fixated by Sandy and Danny falling in love over dodgy hair dos and nifty dance routines. And what was more romantic than a bit of Dirty Dancing between Baby and Johnny. So to tell you that I was a little bit disappointed when it came to realistic relationships is an understatement. Real life relationships are nothing like the movies, and frankly, it’s just NOT FAIR!!
Movie relationships set an unrealistic perception when it comes to relationships and love. And of course guys haven’t grown up with Julia Roberts being whisked away from her life as a Hollywood hooker, so how can they ever reach the standards we expect? For one, and I know this is more unrealistic than Robbie Williams sweeping me off my feet and declaring his undying love to me, but where’s the ‘slushy cry your heart out’ music when it comes to that pivotal moment on your first date? Just think; Elton John and Blue popping on in the background while your building up that tension to your first kiss. It works in the movies, so why not in real life?
In the movies anything’s possible where love is concerned, okay I know it’s not real and we all have to go to work, make a living, blah, blah, blah. But how come men in movies drop everything, at a moments notice, and travel across the world for the woman of their dreams? When our guys won’t even move off the sofa to change the TV over?!
Romantic films never warned us about football, drunken boyfriends and rude friends. In movies the guy tries to impress the girl by winning over her parents or fighting off a baddie. Romeo even died for Juliet, now that’s true love. We have to put up with our guys ogling at other girls, Saturday afternoons on our own because, ‘the footballs on’ and laddish behaviour. Frankly Juliet just wouldn’t have put up with this behaviour, and Romeo, being the gentleman he was, wouldn’t have dared to behave this way.
I could wait my entire life, but I’m sure no guy will ever mutter the words “Nobody puts baby in the corner”, well not in any sort of romantic framing anyway. It still makes me tingle when I watch the last scene where Patrick Swayze sweeps baby off her feet, because you know (well I definitely know I’ve seen it at least 100 times) that a happy ending is not far away. Everything turns out well and their love changed lives for the better. Where’s our happy ending?
Okay so I’m not some sort of deluded freak who believes that films are actually real life, but sometimes I wish they were. Thinking about it we don’t actually know what happened after Baby and Johnny finished dancing, they may have had ‘The time of their lives’ that night but what happened afterwards? We assumed they lived happily ever after, but where’s the proof? She could have easily been just some holiday fling. No sorry I just can’t do it, they lived happily ever after, and that’s the end of it!
I know holding on to romantic films isn’t healthy; it’s only going to lead to a string of disappointed relationships. When my next boyfriend asks me the reason I dumped him I can’t really say it’s because our relationship just doesn’t live up to how it is in the movies. But where do fairytales end and real life begin...surely we can have some sort of compromise? After all if Patrick Swayze can die in Ghost, and still come back to kiss Demi for one last time, surely we can expect prince charming to appear from time to time, and sweep us off our feet. That isn’t too much to ask…is it?!
posted by Novelgirl | 1:00 PM
3 Comments:
Maybe the problem isn't your movie-based relationship expectations, but the movies you choose as your foundation. Something like eternal sunshine of the spotless mind is more on point, for my experience anyway :)
First visit, nice blog. Keep up the good work.
I don't think there is anything wrong with wanting the fairy tale! It can happen
romantic films are fine. and fun. but for sheer poignancy and dramatising the disparity between reality and gloosy life hollywood offers you have to see "purple rose of cairo". it's perfect.
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